I think I've lost her

I first met this lady in July 2016, when both of us attended the same church, at a new place where I worked as an intern for a whole year. We both did not get involved with any activities within the church, sat at the same row, but never talked to each other. Then, I went to another town for work in Feb - April 2017, and never saw her again when I came back. Then, just few weeks before I leave to go back to University in August 2017, I managed to get the courage to ask for her name, where she's from, where she studied, and what her job is. That's about it. It was a 30 second conversation. 

For two years between September 2017 - September 2019, I was in university, studying and doing my life as usual. I was not keenly attracted to anyone in church or fellowship, for some reasons. I totally forgot about her, if I'm honest. 

Fast forward, it was October 2019, I came back to the place of work where I was once an intern. I did not go back to the church, and decided to try another church, upon recommendation of a friend. All of these are unexpected. Anyhow, by random chance (or divine arrangement), I met the lady again. This time, we knew we need to get to know each other, and exchange phone numbers and what not. I knew I had a huge crush on her. I found myself unable to sleep for weeks, knowing that I will see her again on Sundays. I knew it was a miracle we met each other again because apparently after I left in August 2017, she went to another place for work for a whole year. Then, she moved to another city. Only recently, she decided to attend this particular church. There are so many factors that could prevent us meeting again but somehow we did. 

Anyway, we started texting, and I was so happy that both of us are taking the initiative to text each other. Then, after having a lunch meet up, the texting stopped. I did not really know why, probably because I ignored her as she was sick. Anyhow, there's another guy who worked in the same workplace as her and came to the church. I thought they liked each other so I actually stepped back and stop taking any interests in her. The three of us plus a few others went for bouldering, which she suggested. From this point onward, I noticed the red flags. I mean, everyone has red flags as nobody is perfect. Yet, it is important to identify them as to know how to tolerate each other. I found that she can be quite volatile and immature? And she would get really mad if nobody replies her message. I think any girls have the right to be mad but is it justified? I would expect her to be more mature as she is 2 years older but apparently not. I really don't want to have an objective view of her because that would put her down from my perfect perception of her. She then suggested having Karaoke, but then I did not reply in the group chat. I think she got mad after as she put on her Insta story saying that how hard will it be for people to reply. She then left the group chat she created, blocked me on Instagram and Facebook, and removed me from Whatsapp contacts. 

Taking a step back, I wondered what could I have done better? Did I just lost her for good? Is she worth it? Will she stop coming to church / change to another church because of me? I mean, I've already foresee this in my worst case scenario analysis. I really don't know. I've been praying for a good life partner for like a 7 years already? I really thought she could be the one. At this point, probably no. Will I be single forever? Actually I don't really mind but I will be jeered my whole life by friends and family. 

It's like Abraham sacrificing Isaac after God promised Abraham a son. I felt like I was in the same situation as Abraham. Giving it up after receiving it. I guess God has a better plan? I really wanted to help her. I know she has some mental health issues. I know she is strong hearted and a very career-focused person. Did I expect too much?

Wish I have been more mature to know what to say and what to do at the right time. 

I feel like sometimes God place some person in my life, which I actually squandered because I did not do anything about it. 

2019 - This aforementioned lady from church whom it was a miracle we met each other again

2017 - The Korean lady whom I met in a church in Malaysia during summer in which we started texting, before I discarded my Malaysian number and flew back to UK

- This Filipino lady whom I met in church in UK, met her parents and her church cell group. But then I never see her again after winter 2017. 

- This lady whom I met in cell group, who knew I was very lonely and she understands me inside out. Really wish to talk to her again to rekindle the friendship but I found no excuse to do so. 

2016 - A church member introduced her god daughter, in which I did nothing nor initiate anything to start any conversation / meet up

2014 - This lady whom I knew and people hinted that she was interested in me. She is a good Christian girl. But I knew I was going off to UK and hence I did not do anything. Long distance relationship is pointless, as far as I'm aware. I wish she will get a good Christian man soon as I know she deserves the best (not me, obviously). 

I knew I had to trust God at this point. I can't really do much but to make myself better, a good Christian man. Even if I end up single forever, I pray that I will be the best version of myself, in God's eyes. Everyone else may do it without God's help, but I want my relationship (if any) to be a testimony to God.